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Monday, June 23, 2014

The Time is Here

The Time is Here

On Wednesday of last week (June 18th) we got the official call that our homestudy had been completed and that the paperwork was being submitted to the state! YA!!! AND in the same call she told us about 2 great kids who have a respite (short term) need.  Needless to say,  after YEARS of talking and LOTS of training we were excited to say YES!  A short term (just long enough for it to be a bit more than just a vacation) with 2 very great kids is by far the world's best first placement.  So we waited for 5 LONG days for them to arrive.  Today with 1 1/2 hours to spare before rushing everyone off to VBS, we helped settle the kids down and introduce them to our home (and theirs for the next few weeks). 

As excited as we were; my heart still stung for these kids.  The fact they had to go somewhere they didn't know and stay with people they have never met really broke my heart.  Two very shy quiet kids (which for the record, has not even last the whole first day :) came in and looked a little lost... very curious and slightly sad.  Today all my training and all my research did no good.  Today I prayed.  I prayed for 2 precious lives... for 2 young souls who are a bit lost... a bit curious...and have had a ton of sadness.  See God is big and no training no research can ever begin to do even a fraction of the work that he can!  So tonight when I tuck in 4 kids instead of 2 I am going to PRAY because that is something BIG I can do today.  "

Jesus looked at them and said, "With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.   Matthew 19:26

Wednesday, June 11, 2014

Summer Learning

Summer School  Learning

Well it's summer time and of course there are a lot more kids out and about during the day hours then when we run errands on days when kids are at school... this has begun to present a small issue. My kids are asked EVERY time we are out... How is your summer? Do you like no school?... Pause.... awkward silence then they look at me , I smile, they reply, "We are homeschooled".  Another awkward pause... person stares at me with HUGE eyes and says, "YOU SCHOOL ALL YEAR ROUND?".   I smile again and rely, "We learn all year round, if that is what you are asking."

So do we school all year round?  The answer is we don't school any year round.  I don't like the word. I have come to despise it to be honest.  I found saying we are learning and finding out new things and exploring is SO much nicer sounding and much more accurate to what is going on.  So no, we are not schooling this summer or next year or even in high school.  We are learning.  

Ok, Ok, here it comes the roars- give me a second to explain.  School has changed since you and I went.  School has begun to be ran like a business and with that there are lots of business transactions.  There are lots of risk and even more lots of discussion regarding everything but STUDENTS LEARNING!  So no I don't dislike schools in general and often there are MANY great people working really hard to make sure that kids are being put first and doing the best they have with what they are given (even when that is not enough).  But like any other job, when the person making the decisions is not the persons in charge of the day to day running of it... things are lost.. and in school that is a BIG BIG problem in my opinion. 

 Do I believe everyone should homeschool? Of course not. I believe EVERYONE should pray and ask God for serious guidance in this area.  Am I against school? No not at all, what I am against is people making decisions for MY family without knowing WHO we really are.  Our policy is the same as always, "Each kid (INDIVIDUALLY), each year, where God wants them".

 I don't want my kids to love school. I want them to love learning.   

So here is our summer list:

  •  We have the most awesome summer board of activities we are working on.  As we complete various fun projects we will replace them with pictures of us doing said ideas! At the end of summer, I do believe, we will have one awesome wall of memories.  I have to say I am not sure 50 was enough- we have already completed miniature golf, tea parties, bird feeder making, sleep overs, go carts, yard baseball games, picnics and it's only been a WEEK!

  • Library, Library, Library.  We are so busy with our reading program.  This is not a new thing for us as a family but the idea of taking what we are doing and getting fun library tickets for prizes has really upped the ante on reading time!

  •  Summer piano!  This is play whatever you want, whenever you want.  Something about having no expectations has brought out the music in this ole piano.  It is the center of dance parties, chorus singing, and of course individual enjoyment playing.

  • Liberty Kids & Magic School Bus & Art instruction DVD's... with no "learning" on the brain and lots of morning outside playing and running around has caused there to be an increase quiet afternoon DVD hour.   Me: "Fine, I guess you can watch TV this afternoon for an hour" Them: "Yes, we can watch ...." (and mind you it doesn't matter how cool I am-or think I am- I really can never EVER be as cool as the Frizz)

  • The craft room is flowing.. out.. out of the room and onto the floor, the table, the couch... there are bracelets being made, pictures are being painted, paper being cut for mache projects, origami folding, glue is EVERYWHERE, fabric is being sewed- its a creative disaster (and I LOVE it).
  • Kitchen is open.  Dog treats are being made, 4H cakes are being decorated, cookies are cooling, brownies are baking- seriously, I am almost wondering if our cost of living is increased over the summer because our dishwasher, oven, and fridge are being MAXED out with creations!

  • Outside... they are outside.. somewhere.  One day I had to clean off the mud used to mimic Native American war paint, or buy more garden seeds (mine had decided to plant themselves), random things are being lugged out to the big tree (I hear an intense game of survival is being played), garden plants are spotting and kids are screaming for cameras to take pictures or videos (might end up in a scrap book if they can find more glue), the trampoline is a picnic table, a game table, an exercise gym and even a pet cage at times (our poor kitty). Bikes, more bikes, go carts, scooters have littered the yard (to the point that its massive clean up on mow the grass days).  OHHH, and a family favorite has become the nightly baseball game being played.  We've had uncles, aunts, cousins, and friends join us for some baseball/softball fun.

 But your right, its summer and NOPE were not in school! But right now, I have to go because one of my kids just wrote this amazing story and need me to help them find a word in the dictionary. 

 Summer Sun Blessings,

Tara J. 

Monday, June 9, 2014

A lesson in Patience



A Lesson in Patience - The Final Step Postponed
 
So very very close.  Today should of been the day... but like so many other things there has been a hold up.  A very small one.. honestly one I kinda felt in my Spirit (looking back I can see this- not so much in the moment).   After 36 OHIO hours (not to mention the NC hours we already completed, which was 40 hours) we have done everything... all the training, all the inspections, interviews, and paperwork.  We really thought today our home-study would go to the state so we could begin the next step ... but... there was something minor.  A human error (not ours per say) that has made it so we have one more step.  See when we moved back to Ohio we never switched our driver licenses.  We had just got our NC ones and we didn't really need it.. I know, I know your thinking DUH!  I did too but you see we had asked (actually had a couple conversations about it) and was told over and over it was no big deal (the state actually doesn't care about this - its the credited association that requires it).  After processing it all and getting over my original frustrations it really is no big deal.  We will just make a call and take care of it... but that can't be done til tomorrow.  So another day to remember the words of the Lord and wait on him.  

Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV)

For I know the plans I have for you,”
declares the Lord,“plans to prosper
you and not to harm you, plans to
give you hope and a future.



What you doing in... MAY?

It's May!?!

Well, I can't believe it but its true... The winter is OVER!   It's May and that means it's busy time.  So let me run through somethings we are working on here in May....

May Madness Includes:

  1. Wrap up school- even though we school through the summer on, what I like to call quarter days (a time to work on something specific you are struggling with or just review things we have already learned) we do have to wrap up and officially end this year.   
  2. In Ohio we have to either portfolio review with a teacher (show them what you studied and progress made) OR test (with a state approved standard test)... so figuring out who is doing what (I like to test to see some scores but I don't test each kid, each year).
  3. It's time to really spend some serious time in prayer and discussion about what next year is going to look like for each kid.  We have a firm policy that states "Each kid individually what they need"... educational needs change, as my kids change.  So it's time for us to really sit this one down and look at each child and figure out what worked, what didn't, why or why not.. what to do next year... 
  4. Summer stuff- after review is when I normally come up with my summer list... it's saying what I want you to continue to work on.  I really strive for independent work and things that are non-time consuming for this time of year.  Example:  Maybe a spelling workbook and then a math review book along with a book a week of reading.  
  5. Next year curriculum... what are you thinking regarding that?!?  Answer: no idea not thinking about that at all yet!
  6. Birthday/birthday/celebrations- we have a lot of May celebrations taking place this year.  My own kids and families kids have birthdays, Mother's days, cook out season starts... This year there is a HUGE surprise thing taking place at the end of May for my girls (more about that AFTER it happens- can't risk the surprise).
  7. We are ALMOST done! Yes, I know it's crazy! After 4 years (we moved states and had to start ALL OVER) of paperwork, training, training and MORE training, we are almost completed with our foster/adoption license... Just a quick idea of what this includes (but not limited to)... phone calls, LOTS of them. To doctors for EVERY member of family to have physicals, calls and more calls to the state fire marshal for inspection of home, dogs to vets (this is X3) for all shots and wellness appointments, well water test, home safety audit, interviews/interviews/and more interviews, copies of everything from your driver's license to your phone bills, lots more training and paperwork (did I mention that enough?), rearranging of the home (almost 3 times) to figure out the best set up for bedrooms (following strict guidelines of who can be in which room with whom and how old, gender, ect..) BUT THERE IS LIGHT!  There is light at the end of this tunnel! It's bright!  It's like eating an elephant- one bite at a time (a HORRIBLE metaphor but you get my point)!
  8. Vitamin D... exist outside.  All winter we planned outside things to do (while longingly staring out the  window)... field trips we wanted to take, walks that need walked, bikes that need bike rides, fairy gardens need planted, vegetable and flowers that need grown...

Saturday, January 18, 2014

2014 Book List


2014 Book List
  1. Grounded (Windy City Neighbors) By Neta  & Dave Jackson
  2. Mixed Bags plus free Stealing Bradford (Carter House Girls) By Melody Carlson 
  3. Michal: A Novel (The Wives of King David) By Jill Eileen Smith 
  4. Abigail: A Novel (The Wives of King David) By Jill Eileen Smith
  5. Bathsheba (The Wives of King David) By Jill Eileen Smit
  6. Whiskey Beach By Nora Roberts
  7. One Small Boat (the story of a little girl, lost then found) by Kathy Harrison
  8. Another Plate at the Table (a story of shattered childhoods redeemed by love) by Kathy Harrison
  9. Somebody's Someone (a memoir) by Regina Louise
  10. Spirit Fighter (Son of Angels Jonah Stone) by Jerel Law
  11. Gone Girl by Gillian Flynn
  12. No Biking in the House Without a Helmet by Melissa Fay Greene
  13. Fire Prophet (Son of Angels Jonah Stone) by Jerel Law
  14. Shadow Chaser (Son of Angels Jonah Stone) by Jerel Lawz
  15. Where We Belong by Emily Giffin
  16.  Cool Beans by Erynn Mangum
  17. No! I Don't Want to Join a Book Club (Diary of a 60th year) by Virginia Ironside
  18. The Other Family by JoAnna Trollope
  19. One Fifth Avenue by Candace Bushnell
  20. Adoring Addie by Leslie Gould
  21. Courting Cate by Leslie Gould
  22. A Place to Call Home by Martha Randolph Carr
  23. Protector by Diana Palmer
  24. Magnolia Wednesdays by Wendy Wax

    **I have included the links to the amazon site.  I normally read most of my free reading time books via my Kindle but not always.  I linked just to be nice and if you wanted to read about the books you can.  I probably won't review most of these unless something really amazing comes along.  I just want a list of what I have read.**
 Famous Quotes about Getting in the Habit of Reading Books – The real purpose of books is to trap the mind into doing its own thinking. Christopher Morley -  Read a Good Book

Nehemiah Week 1

The Living Room Series

NEHEMIAH
A heart that can break
By:  Kelly Minter


Week 1:
AWESTRUCK!!
 Where to begin.... OK, new group, new people, exciting! nervous! iffy.... is this a group for me, what are my expectations, what are they going to expect from ME... AHHHH   BUT they welcomed me and were very nice and I was inspired.  I often do book groups and ((are you ready for a big SECRET)) I sometimes don't read the book.  I know... SHOCKING!  sometimes life just overwhelms me and I just don't feel it.  I was nervous of that happening here too!  BUT I made a point (even though I was interrupted almost 2000X) I completed day 1 of the study.   WOW!~  OK, my confirmation from God was right there!  I have this saying, "with knowledge comes responsibility"... If you tell me something I am responsible to potentially act on this knowledge.. I say this A LOT!   And, guess what day 1 was about!??! Yep, you got it! Being responsible for what you know.  HOLY CONFIRMATION (literally!).   It hasn't taken a lot more for me then that.  I felt like God spoke right to me and said, "I want you here Tara, I have good stuff to share with you, we are on a journey, join me".... This made me emotional and excited and scared all at the same time!

Day 2.... after day 1 I was kinda expecting a bit of let down... but NOPE not even a bit!  Day 2 of this study was about a lot of things but 2 of them knocked me off my feet.... #1 unfailing love.  It is always a great reminder to read about God's unfailing love and studying what that means and how that directly impacts MY LIFE!   #2 was the big one though for me.... It asked me to describe the last time I was awestruck by God.  I named an event a few months ago and then the next paragraph says this... (I am going to paraphrase a bit here).... I long to have God's awestruck moments in my life and that I settle for so much less.  It's not God who isn't doing or willing but it is ME settling for so much less!  A mediocre worship experience from God because I AM not seeking more!  ... ouch!   YES, TRUE!  I prayed a lot after this because there are some BIG things going to be happening in our home soon and this just fit with what I had going on in my thoughts.... I called a friend and was sharing with her this thought pattern and she said something that just KNOCKED ME OVER!   Are you accepting medicare because of self preservation?  I am a control freak and I am looking for God to let me down because I don't want to get hurt.   WOW, God SO DOES NOT WORK THAT WAY.  If I get hurt he has a reason and is there and is a part of all that...  who am I to tell HIM what I can handle???? I am choosing LESS because of my fear to TRUST HIM to KNOW WHAT IS BEST FOR ME- self preservation... I think I have found something I need to pray about and release!  I always say I don't want to NOT do something out of FEAR but now I am finding I am doing it to try to not be hurt... that is not trust!  That is not giving God control!  Tara J. get on the boat and stop swimming in circles around it!  AWESTRUCK- something I need and want from him!

Couldn't move on from there because I need more time on day 2!  He'll tell me when it's time to move!


Nehemiah By Kelly Minter

The Living Room Series

NEHEMIAH
A heart that can break
By:  Kelly Minter

I have been invited by a group of women to be a part of this great book!~  I have included a video here in case you want to know more about this study/book.   So far, I am only a couple chapters in and I HIGHLY RECOMMEND it!  Read the links below to see some of the truths God has shown me during this study!

Matthew 7:7-11
“Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, and the one who seeks finds, and to the one who knocks it will be opened. Or which one of you, if his son asks him for bread, will give him a stone? 10 Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a serpent? 11 If you then, who are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask him!



Wednesday, January 8, 2014

A Glance @ January 2014



So I have been reading blogs and visiting blogs and thinking about my own blog A LOT... and at the end of the day all these WONDERFUL, GREAT, INSPIRATIONAL things I have to say just don't happen if I don't make the time to sit down and WRITE.  I know, easy concept BUT not so easy for this Momma!    So the first thing you need to know about blogging is that you ACTUALLY HAVE TO WRITE!  sshhh wish someone would of told me that before I started!  Rather then giving ALL my inspirational thoughts away at once, I have decided to go ahead and drag them out and just start writing! SOMETHING, ANYTHING.... GO....
A Glance @ what is going on...
January 2014



 SNOW STORM!

STUCK IN THE HOUSE!

LEVEL 3! 


SNOW, SNOW, SNOW
   Root year #1 Goal of building togetherness as a family (check)!

 This is something I actually have some big opinions on... and they DO NOT match the majority of Facebook users.   FB is my form of media, news, and life (lets face it- I still get the newspaper- gotta have something to do art projects on BUT by the time I read it in there it is old- if it is newsworthy then FB already told me about it and on top of the time it takes to have the story investigated, wrote, edited, printed, delivered, and YES it sat in my mail box for a week- it's just old).  BUT, snow is something that FB and I do not agree on!  See, when we moved away and I had to experience my first time of seeing snowmen at place where there was ABSOLUTELY a small chance of snow- it depressed me.  I mean seriously bothered me!   Something about that is just wrong!   You can put up trees and a Santa and things like that- but a snowman in the middle of  green yard is just WRONG!  This year I love snow.  I love the way it looks, feels, and YES, I love the fact it made me stay in the house with my family and just be together!   So THIS year I love snow (who knows how I will feel next year).  This worked really well with my goal #1 of building family togetherness!  Nothing says togetherness like being stuck in the house for days!  Games were played, books were read, movies were watched, meals were cooked together- it was seriously a very surprising enjoyable break from the world.

(BG is throwing snowballs at him in this picture)
SNOW! SNOW BE GONE! WATCH OUT! 

Root year #2 Goal of making hubby a priority (check)!

Nothing says I love you more then doing something that your spouse LOVES to do.  So when I walked up to him while he was plowing and asked him to show me how to do it... he was happy!  Yep, he gave me a tutorial on using the John Deere and then stood around and watched me plow away.  Sounds a bit silly but honestly I saw him smiling.  I think he enjoyed the fact I put effort into doing something he REALLY enjoys doing.  I decided to widen our driveway into a 4 lane drive and off I went.  It was fun and hey, it's good stuff to know (never know when I might want to surprise him with a plowed driveway).  He doesn't expect me to do it (probably prefers I don't because he really does like to do it) but I know he enjoys showing me how... and lets face it.. if he came in and wanted a lesson on something I really enjoyed doing then I would probably smile too!

Root year #3 Goal of me (check)!

Anyone who says they have only one life to live must not know how to read a book. -Anonymous

Now I am not going to give away anything here (I am not a spoiler so read it for yourself!) BUT I just read the book Sycamore Row by John Grisham and well I don't know. See normally, I have great opinions on books but this one I just don't.  I can't decide if I liked the way it ended.  I can't decide if I liked it all to be honest.  It has me doing a lot of thinking (maybe that was Mr. Grisham's whole point) but you should read it.  You should because A. he is great author and has proved this over and over B. if you have read his most famous book, A Time to Kill  then you HAVE to read this follow up on that book C. it makes you think (and there is NOTHING wrong with that!).  So what is next for me... I don't know yet.  I have some ideas brewing... I know I am going to always be reading SOMETHING because that is just me.  I haven't choose the next book but I have been doing a lot of christian fiction this last year and might continue with that.  I'll let you know.  I also want to craft some more.  I have an amazing Cricuit system I don't use enough and some great ideas for that.  I also want to get some wreaths made (NC took wreaths more serious then Ohioans do) and it's time to get involved in something outside of the house.  I love projects and I can guarantee some more are on the way!

 HAIR HERE, HAIR THERE, HAIR EVERYWHERE
These are her before pictures... and YES, I COMPLETELY FORGOT AFTER PICTURES!
I will shoot some of her in a bit to add as after pictures- 4 days later!


Root year #4 Goal of one on one (check)!

It just so happens MM has had another birthday (feels like we do this every year).  I am a big believer in doing something for birthdays!  I love parties but I love when we as a family go and do something.  We have had some big parties (Disney, water parks, ect...) and we have had just going to the pool or a visit to the zoos birthdays but this year we went to the hair salon!  MM was in need of a redo on her perm and spending some mom time in the process.   She has turned 10 folks and though I know everyone is happy I am not.  See 10 introduces the beginning... the beginning of the next 10 years... those are the years that kids don't always show love and want to cuddle and snuggle with their moms... and well I am not sure I am ready for all that.  I could write a whole blog post on that alone but I won't.  She's 10... we did the perm thing.. and if your reading this you get to know a secret others won't know... we have scheduled for her to get permanent (yep, permanent) purple pick a boo stripes in her hair... why?  WHY NOT? She's homeschooled (meaning no handbook to follow) and she asked I said sure (I did offer tattoos and piercing and she rolled her eyes- there is hope for this kid). I'll post pictures after the big day (can't do a perm and color the same day).  

Last but not least.... I have got some cool school projects going on and might write a post about those soon (remember, I am working on just getting the fingers moving on the keyboard).  BUT until I do...

Talk soon,
Tara J.

P.S. These pictures are a glimpse at the new laundry system and cleaning plan we have invented to help with the chores!  The laundry idea is everyone got a Dollar Tree small basket- when yours is full you bring it to the basement I do that load (it's small so it'll only be one load- unless you BEG me then I MIGHT let you do it ((he he)) and then I fold it and you take clean clothes up and put them away- i'll let you know how it works!  I like the idea of only doing 1 person at a time (making put away- our FAILED part of laundry much easier)!  

 HE BEGGED TO DO HIS LOAD - what mother denies that!?!

P.S.S. There is also the new family chore idea... and it's a simple one... we all work together in ONE room and let me tell you, cleaning ONE room goes super fast with lots of hands.  We all conquer one room at a time.  I take the BIG job (mop, vacuum, ect...) they all work on the rest (dusting, wipe downs, ect...).  The kids had great attitudes because we were all together and I was IMPRESSED at the quickness of it.  If we stick to it.. we will be able to clean the ENTIRE house in less then 20 minutes!  I'll let you know how that goes too!
Many Hands make light Work. Because it is but little to every one.
[1721 J. Kelly Scottish Proverbs 244]